Getting Ready for the Trip!
The last goodbyes to family and friends with last minute preparations.
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To prepare for our trip/move, Nick and I were like chickens with out heads cut off. We knew when we were going to leave months ahead of time, but nothing can really prepare you for what you have to get done. Our departure date was March 1st, so we decided to really get things going right after the new year, because face it, who really has time during Christmas and New Years. Once January 1st hit, So did reality.
I think I was the one who started to doubt if we could pull it off. I remember even looking at alternate departure days, and calling the airline to see how much it costed to postpone our trip. I mean think about it: we had to quit both of our jobs, do our business and personal taxes, sell our cars and all of our stuff, move out of our place (which meant lots of cleaning), setup bank accounts, drive to Tijuana to ﬁnish my dental, do more dental work back home, budget and book our hotels...etc...etc; all of this had to be done in 2 months! However, crazy all this seemed, Nick was super conﬁdent about our decision, and was not about to back down.
One night I had a session with my counselor, Pam. She urged me to just go with the ﬂow, and trust that things will align. That was deﬁnitely what I needed to hear. So I decided to suck it up, and start getting organized. That very night, I bought a calendar, sat in front of Nick, and said "We are planning everything, down to the last detail; this the only way that I can survive this". Nick was very obliging, and helped me do exactly that. From that moment on, things ﬂowed exactly how Pam had suggested. It as crazy how well everything came together; it seemed like the universe was telling us we were on the right path. One by one, each task was crossed off; day by day, Nick and I pragmatically started to dismantle our lives back home.
We decided to move out of our place two weeks ahead of time, in order to get our deposit back before we left. This left us homeless for about two weeks, and free of work. Nick and I thought this part would be fun; we could bunk up with family before we leave, cruise around during the day, and get to see everybody. We never expected that I was going to be dead sick through most of it, that it would practically abolish our sex life for two weeks, and that seeing everybody is not as easy as it seems. It takes a toll on you to say goodbye a million times, and have the same conversation about where you're going, and what you want to do. Some of it was met with judgement, and some with joy; none of it was easy, nor was any of it relaxing. We love our family, and friends beyond belief, but that's what made this process so hard.
A closing note about preparing for a trip like this: if you plan to leave with your partner anywhere for an extended period of time, it's best to communicate often! I can't stress that enough, especially for you newlyweds. Make sure you are both on the same page, and get used to getting those feelings out early (yes guys, that means you too). You are about to go through a lot as a couple, so create as tight of a bond as you can. Nick and I have been working on this aspect throughout our relationship, so it wasn't that much of a problem. However, even the strongest couples will go through hurdles that will test your relationship. A move like this is exciting and fun, but it is not always easy. Just be patient, be organized, trust your partner, and trust your intuition.